What NOT to say to a pregnant woman

Here is a list of what NOT to say to a pregnant woman. (I'm sure it will get bigger as my pregnancy progresses haha)

We all have put our foot in our mouth or have asked people things without even realizing it was rude. I am sure I have done some of these but now that I am pregnant I realize that sometimes it's better to keep your mouth shut when dealing with a woman with extra hormones, exhaustion and insecurities involved.


1. Other than her baby bump NEVER comment on anything else looking bigger. Yeah, we know our butts are starting to sag a little and that our hips are separating and storing fat for the baby we have to feed. We know that we have these awesome new accessories called saddle bags and that our faces look rounder everyday. Do you really think we need/want you reminding us!!!
I have enough mirrors in my house and a scale staring at me everyday so please just leave it to them to remind me, thank you very much!

2. DO NOT tell her that you thought she was just getting fat and not actually pregnant. Or that she doesn't look pregnant at all. It is not in any way a compliment. It is rude and hurtful. Pregnant women WANT to look pregnant, why would they want to look like they are just bloated or fat. Their hormones are on overload and a comment like that can really ruin their whole entire day and night. Trust me, just don't do it!

3. Do not comment about her weight in general. Whether she is putting on weight fast or to you it doesn't look like enough you need to keep it to yourself. Everyone's pregnancies are complete different because everyone's bodies are completely different as well as their diet and level of fitness. Some women gain a lot of weight right off the bat and then slowly gain a for the rest and some gain it very slowly at first and then all at once towards the end.
Also belly sizes will look different. People either want to tell you "you should be showing more. Why aren't you showing, are you sure you're pregnant?! Is there something wrong with the baby. I was showing way more when I was that far along" And other women get "are you sure you aren't having twins? Why are you so big already? I wasn't that big when I was that far along". Again EVERYONE is DIFFERENT. Please try to find a nice way to compliment the mom-to-be without being offensive or come off judging.

4. Do not try to predict her future. Pregnant women are well aware that their future's are about to change. Of course things will change, our entire focus will shift from ourselves to a child. Our whole existence is going to be for caring and raising this child. Our bodies will change, or sleep cycles will change, our hormones, eating schedules, exercise schedules, romantic and social lives will all change to some degree. I have been told way too many times about how I will never look good again. I am obsessed with fitness and being healthy, I know it won't be easy but I will not give up because I have a child. I owe it to myself, my husband and my Creator to be the best I can be and to take care of my body.  The thing is that every woman handles things differently and can still make time for what is important to them individually. It is rude to assume that someone will be a certain way or set them up for failure. Instead try to be positive when talking about the future and let them know that yes it will change but it will be so worth it!!!